BY: HASSAN ABOLAJI
You ever wondered why life is the way it is? One day you feel you have found your own path and the next day another idea pops up. It is not always a man’s fault that he loses focus all the time but the reason why he is not able to keep focus is what should be investigated. They say you only live once, you seriously need to make an impact, you need to leave a trail, you should not be like the snake that has passed over the mountain and has left no mark. You see the rich getting richer and then the poor getting poorer, yet they say the rich also cry. Do they really cry? Why would they cry? What could possibly be the reason for their cries?
Psychologically you are down, you can’t think straight and you don’t know how you got to be where you are, but you are determined to let nothing hold you back and you are not going to be a slave to your own fear or anybody’s. We are made to believe that a problem shared is a problem solved, you need to get friends who will sit down to hear you out. A friend that will provide answers to your situation. Then we realize that although everyone acts as if everything is fine, but then you can see through their hearts that they all have a lot going on with themselves.
Well, you are not going to keep the agony that you feel all to yourself, you have got to let some go with the wind by sharing it. You call some of your friends and explain your situation to them, some laugh, some sympathize, while others watch quietly. You can’t blame those who laughed, they have their reasons which are best known to them. We feel those who sympathized were the best ones because they felt sorry and also gave their advice. They could advise you to plan a hook up with a lady saying you will feel good or better still smoke and drink to forget your worries. Then you ask yourself will this advice work for me?
You keep wondering if getting hooked up with some random girl is what you really needed, you have never done that before and you wonder how it would feel. Days and weeks passed, you find yourself in the room with a lady ready to have sex but you kept wondering if this was what you really wanted. You knew your problem was lack of concentration but you are here about to have sex. You are not really a stranger to all this, but you don’t think it is what you need. You need a solution to your problems, you want to make a change. You did not realize on time that your problem of losing focus was in every angle of your life. You were still not concentrating on the lady, she senses a lack of commitment and gets turned off. She sits you down to have a conversation with you.
Finally, someone who really wants to talk. She demands that you tell her exactly what was going on with you and without delay, you spilled the whole story. She seemed to understand and then advised that what you really needed was not a casual hook up but a real relationship with someone you love. You thought that was weird and not making any sense but she did a great job convincing you to try it out. Then you think, maybe I actually needed the hook up but not for the sex.
One day on the streets, you find a young attractive woman, you stopped to talk to her and then you became friends with her. You later became really close that the future began to look really promising for both of you. You thought for a second, I might have just found the solution to all of my problems, I might have just found my number one distraction from everything that is wrong in my life, I might have just found my soul-mate. As a person who has been through a lot of heartbreaks, you want to be sure that she is the one for you, even after the young lady has in return opened up nicely to you and has communicated her affections towards you.
You are left with the choice of DO or DON’T, you keep on hearing whispers in your head, you don’t know what to do anymore so you decided to get into a relationship with this lady hoping things would be different. Things really did turn out good but it only lasted a while, you got to find out that this lady who claimed to love you with all her heart is actually seeing someone else. You were pained but there is nothing you could really do. You began to question yourself, is it because I didn’t pay her house rent or I couldn’t give her money? I thought she understood, but she is a woman, she needed these things and but I could not give them to her.
You are lost in deep thoughts, confused, bitter, angry, you felt that it was high time you put a stop to all the misery going on with you. You calm down to think for a second and then you begin to ask yourself, am I really alone in this world? Is there a place for me? Am I ever going to find my bearings? then you remember how you have failed to put God first in all your problems, you have failed to acknowledge that God is the only solution to whatever you might have going on with you, you feel so sorry for your actions, you weep profusely. You have refused to share the grace and now you have been disgraced.
Now you know where your source of focus lies, your joy has increased from ten to a hundred and you can hear a voice loudly calling out your name and saying, ”there is only one real person in your life and that person is YOU”
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